{"id":54,"date":"2011-12-01T05:14:00","date_gmt":"2011-12-01T05:14:00","guid":{"rendered":"\/lisa\/post\/2011\/12\/01\/Malcolm.aspx"},"modified":"2011-12-01T05:14:00","modified_gmt":"2011-12-01T05:14:00","slug":"malcolm","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/spacefold.com\/lisa\/2011\/12\/01\/malcolm\/","title":{"rendered":"Malcolm"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Colin&#8217;s dad passed away two nights ago.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/notices.nzherald.co.nz\/obituaries\/nzherald-nz\/obituary.aspx?n=malcolm-robert-nicholls&amp;pid=154838885\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">http:\/\/notices.nzherald.co.nz\/..\/<br \/>obituary.aspx?n=malcolm-robert-nicholls..<\/a><\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve only referred to&nbsp;my father-in-law&nbsp;as &#8220;M&#8221; in these posts before.&nbsp; He very much liked that &#8212; both for the 007 association and other, more obscure, reasons.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Now it&#8217;s time to say his name out loud and realize that he is gone.<\/p>\n<p>Malcolm&nbsp;enjoyed reading&nbsp;this blog.&nbsp; I didn&#8217;t completely understand why he read it,&nbsp;although I&nbsp;was grateful to have such a devoted fan. There were times when I would not have written here, except that he tended to worry about me&nbsp;when I didn&#8217;t post.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>He did like that the blog was often about&nbsp;my enjoyment of &#8220;rolling&nbsp;one&#8217;s own&#8221; solution to a problem, no matter what the problem was.&nbsp; If you&#8217;ve read <a title=\"Dad's laws\" href=\"http:\/\/spacefold.com\/colin\/blog\/post\/2011\/10\/24\/Dads-Laws\/\">C&#8217;s blog<\/a> you may understand that&nbsp;Malcolm and I&nbsp;had that trait in common, along with some odd music, odder books, silly word play, and a&nbsp;very high&nbsp;level of attention to detail.&nbsp; This last characteristic struck some people as useful and others as alarming or tedious or exasperating, but we couldn&#8217;t help it, no matter what you thought about it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s how we were made, and it&#8217;s how we made things.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t expect he cared much for the subject matter&nbsp;here at TechSpoken,&nbsp;but he&nbsp;told me&nbsp;he liked the way I explain stuff.&nbsp; Probably that was because we&nbsp;shared a&nbsp;somewhat odd sense of humor,&nbsp;our squirrelly minds free-associating and&nbsp;flitting around from thought-twig to thought-twig.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>We both liked to circle our way around an explanation, exploring some side paths, enjoying the detours, feeling enriched by the whole journey, before a resolution appeared, sometimes as an off-hand afterthought.&nbsp; When I&nbsp;think about him looking back over the story of his&nbsp;life, I imagine him remembering&nbsp;the whole of it,&nbsp;all that way.<\/p>\n<p>I want to say: Thank you, Malcolm, for sharing your special brand of fun, your unique way of communicating, and a small&nbsp;slice&nbsp;of your broad interests,&nbsp;with me.&nbsp; Thank you for so quickly welcoming me into your family at the beginning, and for being so loving with me all the way through to the end.&nbsp; Thank you for sharing your wonderful son with me.<\/p>\n<p>I am not going to feel much like posting after this entry, maybe for quite a while.&nbsp; I expect Malcolm would understand, and not worry. I hope you won&#8217;t, either.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Colin&#8217;s dad passed away two nights ago. http:\/\/notices.nzherald.co.nz\/..\/obituary.aspx?n=malcolm-robert-nicholls.. I&#8217;ve only referred to&nbsp;my father-in-law&nbsp;as &#8220;M&#8221; in these posts before.&nbsp; He very much liked that &#8212; both for the 007 association and other, more obscure, reasons.&nbsp; Now it&#8217;s time to say his name out loud and realize that he is gone. Malcolm&nbsp;enjoyed reading&nbsp;this blog.&nbsp; I didn&#8217;t completely<a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/spacefold.com\/lisa\/2011\/12\/01\/malcolm\/\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-54","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-life"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/spacefold.com\/lisa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/54","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/spacefold.com\/lisa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/spacefold.com\/lisa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spacefold.com\/lisa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spacefold.com\/lisa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=54"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/spacefold.com\/lisa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/54\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/spacefold.com\/lisa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=54"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spacefold.com\/lisa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=54"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spacefold.com\/lisa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=54"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}